THE BOYS' BRIGADE

Why do some people give you so much pain in relationship? Is it because they are intentionally doing it or is it because of your attachment and your expectations which get crashed? Sometimes I feel there are no answers to some questions. The more you think about it, the more you get entangled in your own thoughts and keep feeling low. Relationships are the best example. Sometimes it so happens that the person you love so much acts in a way that you feel a very painful stab in your heart. You start thinking how could I ever connect with this person? Why am I suffering so much, the confusion which results give rise to more pain…
Saints and philosophers say you have to keep no expectations from anyone and that's the formula to be happy, that's nipping desire in the bud. But does that make you human anymore? Being a human means, you will have expectations, which are bound to get crashed and make you suffer. Best is to keep expectations (that's human), but not become a slave to them. This is easy to say but difficult to practice. I think this is one of the painful lessons to be learnt in life.

Ego is another thing which comes in the middle. Any normal person will have an ego. The perfect balance between ego (mind) and love (heart) is what one should strive for. But again this is very easy to say. We get so many problems in life of this kind- 1) You think you should lose weight (mind) but your heart says eat that cheese burger J 2) your mind says I have to get out of this relationship as it has no future, but your heart says how the hell can I lose this person, I love him/her too much? 3) Your mind says, good that I have got this job, I won't die of hunger now! , but your heart says you are going to repent doing this for the rest of your life! At such times we need clarity of thinking and most importantly courage to carve out our life path and destiny. Again, not easy.
But still with so many heart-tugging problems, man goes on living day after day hoping for a good future. Man has to be applauded for that. Like the sun rises everyday , the common man gets up and goes to work piling up his load of problems and trashing it in some corner of his mind. Life actually has a lot to teach if you observe closely enough, but experience is the greatest teacher.