Men's and women's bodies reach orgasm in different ways, but that doesn't mean that you can't experience mutual orgasm.
A simultaneous orgasm can be an explosive lovemaking experience that has true bonding power. But while many couples try for the elusive simultaneous orgasm, they find it's more difficult than they'd hoped.
Women's orgasms are hard to predict. Achieving one in itself — let alone at the same time as your partner — requires a delicate balance of technique, timing, your relationship with your partner that day, and sometimes even something seemingly unrelated, like a big project at work or a fight with your best friend. For women, orgasm is as much a function of the mind as it is the body. Plus, it's important to remember that just one-third of women regularly reach orgasm during intercourse. Most others get there through a combination of other techniques.
With all that working against you, a simultaneous orgasm may seem more myth than fact. But there are ways you can pump up the pleasure for both of you. Here are five ways to help you try to get a fabulous his and hers.
Mutual Masturbation
Start trying to reach orgasm at the same time by masturbating simultaneously. It usually works best if the man paces his orgasm to match the woman’s, since men typically reach climax much earlier and easier than women. As you are moving through the plateau phase (the stage where arousal is peaking), he can slow down or speed up the stimulation to match your arousal.
Spend Plenty of Time on Foreplay
Once you’ve mastered the masturbatory simultaneous orgasm, you can use the same skills during intercourse. Make sure you are adequately turned on before intercourse. The closer you can get to an orgasm beforehand, the easier it will be for you to get there during intercourse with your partner! Use music, stimulating media, and anything else to help you get into the mood.
Pick the Right Position
Woman-on-top or side-by-side can be great positions for mutual orgasm because they allow you to set the pace and receive plenty of clitoral stimulation. If you sense him getting close to climax before you are ready, take a break from penetration and rock gently back and forth together. You’ll continue to get prime stimulation that will prepare you for a mind-blowing mutual orgasm.
Increase the Clitoral Stimulation
By adding a little clitoral stimulation during sex, you can often climax quicker. Your partner can use his fingers to do the job or you can experiment with a small vibrator. Most man-from-behind positions work because he can reach around and hold the vibrator against your clitoris. A standard vibrator works great because you can help position it exactly where you want it. Or you can incorporate a small bullet-style vibrator when you are on top.
Go for Oral
Positions in 69 not only hold an incredible promise for intimacy, but these positions also allow partners to both give and receive pleasure and time your pace so that you can reach climax simultaneously.
Even with these helpful tips, instead of concentrating on who comes when, try to let the sexual fireworks happen naturally. Enjoy the sensations and even the experience of giving pleasure to your partner, with no expectations. Take your focus off that ultimate destination and just revel in the experience of being intimate with each other.
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