As a modern 21st century woman, you probably find yourself
coordinating a hectic work life and fire-fighting at home almost
single-handedly. Even if your partner is extremely cooperative, it does
not necessarily make things any easier. And when the stress levels get
on the rise, sex is one of the first things that takes the hit, usually
to the detriment of your relationship. However, before you begin to
panic over your plunging libido, you should know that it is not an
irreversible change. You can recover your sex drive and make your
relationship work. But to do that, you may need to change your entire
approach to sex.
Perfection before Sex... ?
A lot of women take it for granted that before they allow themselves to relinquish their worries and get turned on, everything has to be in place. The home should be clean and in seamless order, there should be no trouble with the kids and their man should a model of adorable and sensitive behavior. In other words, it takes a domestic paradise to get sexy. If this kind of thought process has got ingrained into your subconscious mind too, you are putting a steep price on your own sexuality!
Since things are rarely perfect, you will seldom be in the mood to have sex. As a result, sex will begin to seem like a chore, with you the reluctant participant merely lying there to satisfy your partner. Nothing is more degrading. Ultimately, the desire goes altogether.
Reverse the Equation
To rediscover your sexuality, you must reverse your approach. Rather than treating sex as a result of things in perfect balance, try to approach it like something that will help you put things in balance. Just by allowing yourself to feel sexy without a price, a lot of wonderful things can happen. To begin with, your man will be more positive around you. By reconfirming your desire for him, you will make him feel like doing things for you and cooperating with you. A general sense of positivity between the two of you will work wonders for your relationship. Better sex will also bring down your and your partner's stress levels at work. You may also begin to talk like you haven't done for years.
Rediscovering Your Sexual Capacity
But what if you agree to let yourself go, but just can't find that trigger that sets you off sexually? When people start a new relationship, they generally don't have to try to find the desire to have sex. But, if you have curtailed your impulses for a while, it may not all come back automatically. For women, sex is more complicated. You will need to do things to get yourself back in the mood.
Essentially, you will need to get proactive. Do things that make you feel sexy, whether it is dressing up in a certain way, doing your hair, wearing jewelry, going lingerie shopping and so on. You may also want to pick up some nice erotic fiction to read, and think about ways to surprise your partner and initiate sex. The way most men are, they will not be complaining! Above all, believe in your own sexuality, and in time, you will not only rediscover your libido but probably take it to new heights altogether.
To sum it up, making your relationship work and rediscovering your sexuality are not impossible tasks. Your sexuality is not something you have lost altogether. Instead, it is a side of you that has been repressed for too long and will take a bit of patience.
You are free to publish this article without any change in the content electronically, in print, in your e-book, or on your web site, free of charge, as long as the author resource details are included.
Perfection before Sex... ?
A lot of women take it for granted that before they allow themselves to relinquish their worries and get turned on, everything has to be in place. The home should be clean and in seamless order, there should be no trouble with the kids and their man should a model of adorable and sensitive behavior. In other words, it takes a domestic paradise to get sexy. If this kind of thought process has got ingrained into your subconscious mind too, you are putting a steep price on your own sexuality!
Since things are rarely perfect, you will seldom be in the mood to have sex. As a result, sex will begin to seem like a chore, with you the reluctant participant merely lying there to satisfy your partner. Nothing is more degrading. Ultimately, the desire goes altogether.
Reverse the Equation
To rediscover your sexuality, you must reverse your approach. Rather than treating sex as a result of things in perfect balance, try to approach it like something that will help you put things in balance. Just by allowing yourself to feel sexy without a price, a lot of wonderful things can happen. To begin with, your man will be more positive around you. By reconfirming your desire for him, you will make him feel like doing things for you and cooperating with you. A general sense of positivity between the two of you will work wonders for your relationship. Better sex will also bring down your and your partner's stress levels at work. You may also begin to talk like you haven't done for years.
Rediscovering Your Sexual Capacity
But what if you agree to let yourself go, but just can't find that trigger that sets you off sexually? When people start a new relationship, they generally don't have to try to find the desire to have sex. But, if you have curtailed your impulses for a while, it may not all come back automatically. For women, sex is more complicated. You will need to do things to get yourself back in the mood.
Essentially, you will need to get proactive. Do things that make you feel sexy, whether it is dressing up in a certain way, doing your hair, wearing jewelry, going lingerie shopping and so on. You may also want to pick up some nice erotic fiction to read, and think about ways to surprise your partner and initiate sex. The way most men are, they will not be complaining! Above all, believe in your own sexuality, and in time, you will not only rediscover your libido but probably take it to new heights altogether.
To sum it up, making your relationship work and rediscovering your sexuality are not impossible tasks. Your sexuality is not something you have lost altogether. Instead, it is a side of you that has been repressed for too long and will take a bit of patience.
You are free to publish this article without any change in the content electronically, in print, in your e-book, or on your web site, free of charge, as long as the author resource details are included.
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