THE BOYS' BRIGADE

Men are used to initiating everything -- from the first contact to sex to proposing marriage. Guys are the ones who have to do all the hard work while women sit around and wait for wonderful things to happen.

It must be difficult being the one who always has to do the pursuing rather than being the one chased by an admirer. But what if the tables were turned? Do you think you'd be thrilled if your woman always did the chasing when it came to sex?

Now before you jump into an enthusiastic chant of "Hell yeahs," keep in mind the famous maxim: "Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it." Would you know how to keep a sexually demanding woman happy?

why is she aggressive?

The female orgasm is no longer a shot in the dark; now, most women expect to orgasm virtually every time they make love. And if you can't get it right, they'll teach you how to do it by taking over the situation.

And look around you: Virtually every television commercial, movie, music video, and billboard ad displays sexually aggressive, um, I mean, assertive women. Therefore, women are quickly picking up on the fact that being sexually aggressive does not necessarily make them tramps.

Unfortunately, many women will not let on about their sexual aggressiveness until later in the relationship for fear that their partner might think they've been around.

But if your woman was raised in an environment in which sexuality was not shunned or treated with disdain, she'll likely be very comfortable with her own sexuality. This can result in a woman who may very well have you limping out of the bedroom once she's through with you.

she wants it all

The wonderful thing about a sexually aggressive woman is that she's completely in tune with what she enjoys when it comes to lovemaking. She has no qualms about letting her lover know what makes her tick.

As well, she'll always be up for a sexual escapade with you, and she'll likely be bold in and out of the bedroom. You can rest assured that she's not shy or uncomfortable about discussing fantasies and naughty little ideas.

The best part of having an aggressive lover is that you won't always have to be the one who initiates; she won't hesitate to take off your clothes and sit on top of you.

This is the kind of woman who could make love to you with slow-motioned sensuality or enjoy some sexual frolic made up of animalistic intuition.

And the fact that she goes in search of her own orgasms takes away some of the pressures that most guys feel when it comes to having sex. Now you don't have to worry about making her climax because she'll ensure that the both of you do.

the drawbacks

Although most guys swear that they would do virtually anything to land a woman who would tell it like it is and treat them like sexual prey on a nightly basis, reality dictates otherwise for some.

I talked to several guys who had the advantage of dating such women, and many discussed their fears. Jim revealed, "I became irrationally jealous. I always envisioned her treating other men this way and would become enraged, which ultimately led to petty fights."

Harold admitted: "I was afraid that if there was one night that I simply was too tired or just not in the mood, she would lose all interest in me and go find herself a virtual racehorse that was young, dumb and full of [expletive deleted]."

As well, most guys I spoke to admitted that they sometimes stopped desiring sex as much simply because they knew it was so readily available to them. Because there was no challenge involved in getting the pie, they sort of lost their appetites.

But fear not: The good definitely outweighed the bad, and although there were some complaints, most guys wouldn't trade in their mates for anything in this world. They simply learned a few tricks of the trade and made the best of their situation.

how can you keep up?

If you happen to be one of the lucky guys who has the pleasure of making love to a woman of this genre, here are a few ways to ensure that she'll be satisfied for good.

Keep her coming

Stay mysterious and always ensure that she desires you. Just as men get turned on by the thrill of the chase, so do women. Don't always give in, and when you do, bring her to immeasurable heights.

Order her around

Obviously, no one likes to have a drill sergeant barking orders at them in the sack, but talking to her while you're making love -- as well as telling her what you want her to do -- will likely excite her more than usual.

Take control

Because she's used to having complete control in bed, imagine how enlightening it would be if you took absolute power and had her at your sexual mercy (willingly, of course).

Initiate sex

Before she gets the chance to make any moves on you, start the foreplay by approaching her from behind and grabbing hold of her breasts while sucking on the back of her neck. Your spontaneity will turn her on immensely.

well-kept secrets

Okay, so maybe you're not surrounded by aggressive women who enjoy making love wherever and whenever. But keep in mind that sometimes it takes a little time for a woman to open up in that department, as most women are still afraid of being looked upon as trashy or promiscuous.

And if you want to make your woman more aggressive when it comes to lovemaking, talk to her about how she feels when you initiate sex. Explain that just like she enjoys being desired, you also need to feel those emotions every now and again.